First Time Parent

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.....

Assalammualaikum....dear blogger....today i'd like to highlight about parenthood....hehe...i know too early right for some of you guys....but the thing is, bile kite xprepare dari sekarang, bile lagi?? ye x?? Because recently my closest aunt just gave birth to her first child.....and its a boy....the thing about women is we tend to have instinct about parenthood....but sometimes we don't have the strength to do it all....so, this could be hard for 1st time mother....well, i have no intention at all to discriminate gender here because i really hate that....between us women and men, there are no one better than another...we're all the same....

But i am strongly recommend to all my friends out there who's ready to get married, please, do not ever ignore your wife ESPECIALLY when she gave birth to your child no matter its your first time or not....your wife needs you....i know you might still in blur what to do when your baby is crying out so loud, your wife don't know how to breastfeed your child or she still in pain due to baby delivery or she don't have clean clothes to change when in hospital....please....be more flexible and hyper active....if u don't know, find someone who know fast...give your wife full support because you and her are in this situation together...since you are not the one who's gone through all that pain of giving birth, it's the least u can do...

New fathers, your newborn child is a gift from Allah, so love and treasure your baby. But be prepared, fatherhood is a life changing experience and sacrifices have to be made, you will need to adjust your schedule around the child. Parenting in not only in the women's department.

For men, the moment your spouse tells you that there's a little you inside her belly, please, do some research about being a good father and try your best to support her not only throughout the pregnancy period  but during the baby delivering. The assignment not only for the men of course, mothers-to-be are more encouraged to look after herself and the baby. Eating habits is very crucial to give your child best nutrition and producing milk for your own child...maybe a supplement or simple massage can help this....

But most importantly, these are important recitation for pregnant women and the husband himself:
surah Al Fatihah, Luqman, Yasin, Yusuf, Surah An Nahl ayat 78, surah Al A'raf ayat 189 dan ayat Kursi

Dear husband, try to reduce your temper to your pregnant wife, trust me, it'll do good to neither of you...

Hehehe...my post seems a little odd, but i just feel like sharing this to you guys....
May Allah bless all of married couples out there...:)

Positif?? Susahnyeee......

Assalamualaikum...dear blogger....saya dah malas sebenarnye nak update blog or cerita2 kat blog neh....tapi disebabkan request dari beberapa rakan terdekat, saya cube la luangkan masa untuk kongsi sedikit ape yang bermain di minda saya sejak kebelakangan neh...

Apa yang pembaca tahu tentang tekanan? Biasalah...bak kata Ben iaitu uncle Peter Parker dalam spiderman 'Great Power Comes with Great Responsibility'. Walaupun ini sekadar kata2 orang putih dalam movie, tapi saya agak tertarik dengan maksud disebaliknya. Bagi saya, bila kita semakin dewasa, sudah habis degree or ada on-going master projek, tanggungjawab kita sangat besar. Yelah, waktu-waktu macam neh masing2 mula ada kereta, duit sendiri, kerja sendiri dan mcm2 lg menandakan kita sedang bergerak ke next level dalam hidup kita.Tapi sememangnya tanggungjawab pula semakin besar dengan adanya perkara2 tersebut dalam hidup kita.

Mengeluh?? Itu perkara biasa. Kita manusia biasa, iman kita tidak sehebat Rasulullah, walaupun dibaling najis ke muka, baginda tetap mendoakan kafir2 tersebut agar diberikan petunjuk oleh Allah.Walau bagaimanapun kita tetap harus cuba kurangkan mengeluh dan bersabar atas segala dugaan malah memandangnya dari sudut positif. Seorang pakar motivasi pernah berkata, setiap perkara walaupun ia memang negatif jika kita pandang dari sudut positif maka ia akan menjadi positif. Benar atau tidak wallahualam, namun tak rugi kalau kita cuba kan? Allah pun ada pesan:

Dan sesungguhnya Kami akan memberi balasan kepada orang-orang yang bersabar…(QS. An-Nahl: 96)


Pada pendapat peribadi saya, tidak akan rugi orang2 yang bersabar kerana sesungghnya Allah akan memberi lebih banyak lagi balasan baik jika lebih banyak lagi kita bersabar.